Some people have wonderful marriages and find it quite easy to get along with their partner on a day to day basis. Others, however, find it a struggle just to talk about simple tasks like taking out the trash or doing laundry. They become victims of unhealthy habits, and engage in activities that hurt their bodies from eating junk food, to leading inactive lifestyles.
Fear not; it’s not too late to turn things around. There are a few key tactics in rekindling the feelings that once brought you close and breaking unhealthy patterns.
Follow these marriage tips, to keep your relationship positive and full of healthy choices.
Have a Date Night
By setting time apart each week to enjoy an activity together, you ensure a sense of companionship. Dates don’t necessarily have to be romantic each time, but they should be treated as a time when both of you is completely present, mentally and physically, meaning no cell phones or distractions!
Consider taking turns making a decision on where the next date will be. This is especially helpful when you don’t necessarily like doing the same things.
Make it a weekly event, and treat it the same as you would any other important appointment. Don’t cancel or postpone them if you truly want to maintain a healthy relationship.
If it’s a restaurant, make it a place that is whole, fresh food, and not deep fried.
Drinking alcohol can be one of the most argument provoking activities on the planet. If your marriage is on the rocks, or you have already been experiencing miscommunications, it’s best to avoid alcohol altogether.
Alcohol can make people quick to anger, and less tactful than in a sober condition.
Additionally, building a dependence to alcohol in order to enjoy your partner is a symptom of a much bigger problem.
Spend Time Apart
Just as it is important to spend time together, it is just as important to spend time apart. The age-old saying, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” holds a considerable amount of truth. Try to find activities away from each other, so that you have something to discuss at the end of the day.
If you spend all of your time together you run out of things to talk about. Your partner loses any mystery or intrigue, and you stop caring what they have to say.
By making the time that you spend together special and not constant, you ensure that your time together will have more value.
Give Each other Gifts
The ultimate gesture of love is giving without expecting in return. When you love someone so much, you aren’t focused on what you are getting out of the relationship, but what you can give the other person.
Try starting with even the smallest action such as packing your partner’s lunch the next day and drawing a heart on the bag. Or perhaps you make them coffee in the morning and bring it to them in bed. Small gestures can have a huge impact.
If your partner has been trying to lose weight, treat them to a homemade salad, or surprise them with a protein shake.
Couples who focus on health together, stay together.